Virtual sessions: Slides

Restraint, restraint, RESTRAINT

Remember my general rule of thumb with regards to the use of slides? Use the minimum amount of slides necessary to get the job done. Anything beyond the minimum makes participants either lazy or distracted.  In a virtual session you have other means at your disposal to distribute information, like chat, which means the minimum amount of slides necessary to get the job done goes down.  

You can bring the number of slides down even further by investing in a digital paper tablet that allows you to share your screen, like a Remarkable. This creates a more interactive and spontaneous feel, as participants see you build models step by step, just like with a flip-over in a physical room.

To give you an idea: in a simple 3 hour session on feedback I will generally use 1 slide: the slide with the feedback model. Really - just one slide.. Everything else—like the agenda, exercise instructions or evaluation link—I communicate directly or via the chat to keep engagement high.

You might have your doubts because I’m making it somewhat harder for participants to get the right information. It’s not presented to them on a silver platter through slides. And this is exactly the point. In doing so, I make sure that they pay attention. 

In the end, attention is the highest currency in any session. By minimizing slides and making information just a bit harder to grasp, you’re inviting participants to stay alert, lean in, and actively process what you’re saying. And that’s exactly the kind of engagement you want.

This is an excerpt from my upcoming book on how to deliver awesome trainings. It comes from the chapter Virtual Sessions. This theory is also covered in my Train-the-Trainer programme: Inspire to Develop.

 

Interaction: Using non-verbal cues

If you’ve ever complained about a group because they were not saying anything (as I have in the past), this bit is for you. Since mastering the skill I’m about to share, I no longer struggle with getting people to speak up. Here’s something I’ve come to know for sure: 

The group is always speaking. 

It might not be with words, but the communication is there- all the time - waiting for you to engage. Non-verbal communication is always present. 

Once you learn to pick up on and use the groups’ non-verbal cues, you will notice it’s many advantages:

  • Your participants will feel valued and important.

  • Your participants will feel seen by you and therefore feel the need to be present/participate.

  • Your participants will feel invited to speak up.

  • You’ll uncover tensions that could hinder the training—before they actually do.

Step 1: Noticing non-verbal cues

Your first order of business is to start noticing these cues. Dedicate some mental capacity to keeping an eye on your participants at all times. Here are some key signals to watch for:

 
 

Step 2: Responding to non-verbal cues

Once you start noticing these signals, it’s time to use them in your communication. You have two options:

Indirect approach

This is when you pick up on a cue and let it inform your actions/decisions as a trainer. For example:

  • The group slouched in their chairs with an unfocused gaze in their eyes.

    • You assume they’re tired and you decide to take a break. 

  • Someone looks puzzled when you’re giving an instruction. 

    • You assume that they don’t get it yet and ask the group: ‘Can someone repeat my instruction to see if I have explained it clearly?’.

  • Someone is sitting slightly outside of the training circle. 

    • You assume they feel left out and direct your next question to them to involve them.

Using this approach brings you an advantage, a potential problem and a missed opportunity.

  • Advantage: Especially if you have some years of experience under your belt, your people-reading skills will probably be above average. Adjusting your style and decisions based on this will allow you fine-tune your approach that much better. 

  • Potential problem: You are using assumptions. From time to time your assumptions will be wrong. Whatever action or decision you make as a consequence might not fit the situation. Let’s look at the first example. The group might be slouched and with an unfocused gaze not because they’re tired, but because you have been talking for far too long and they have completely lost interest. A break will not solve the fact that you need to learn to speak less and involve the group more.

  • Missed opportunity: Using an indirect approach you are not making the group aware of the fact that you are paying attention to them. You will miss out on the opportunity to make them feel seen and all of the effects that come from that. Using only an indirect approach therefore, as most beginner trainers do, will not boost interaction and engagement. Adding a direct approach to your repertoire will help you solve this problem. 

Direct approach

This is when you pick up on a cue and then:

  1. call it out

  2. invite a response

  3. let the information that comes up inform your actions/decisions. 

Obviously, there are many ways of calling out these cues. Especially if you’re starting out though, there is a formula that can provide you with an easy way to approach this:

‘It looks/feels/seems/sounds like… [insert your assumption]’ 

followed by a pause that invites the person or the group to reply 

The information that comes up based off of this will then inform your actions/decisions. In many cases you would need one or two follow-up questions to get to the right information.

Example 1

You’ve asked a question. No one answers, but someone looks like one participant might have a thought around this.

    • You: ‘It looks like an answer is brewing in your head!’ 

    • Participant: ‘Well yeah, I was thinking it might be …’

Example 2

Someone makes a sceptical-sounding noise in response to what you’ve just said.

    • You: ‘It sounds like you might have your reservations around this?’

    • Participant: ‘Well, I think there would be some definite risks in approaching it like this’

    • You: ‘How so?’

    • Participant: ‘Well, because …’

    • You: ‘Well that’s definitely something to consider… Does everyone feel the same?’

Example 3

Group looks tired and absent-minded

    • You: ‘It feels like we have a challenge in the energy-department, what’s up?’

    • [silence and some uncomfortable glances]

    • You: ‘It seems like there might be something going on that I’m unaware of?’

    • Participant: ‘Well, we’ve been listening for a while now and since it’s quite hot, I think that’s impacting our energy levels’

    • You: ‘Thank you for that, I appreciate it. It seems I might have fallen into that illustrious trainer-pitfall of talking too much, am I right?’

    • [some relieved smiles and confirmations]

    • You: ‘All right, what do you say to a break right now, and then we’ll move into an exercise after the break?’

Why I love the direct approach

My absolute favorite thing about this direct approach is that you uncover tensions that might hinder the training at an early stage. Example 2 (scepticism) and 3 (tired & absent) would, if unaddressed, probably turn into full blown resistance later on. By identifying this early and addressing it in the moment, you prevent tensions from escalating and resistance from building up.

Final thought

If you start paying attention to non-verbal cues, you’ll never have to wonder why a group isn’t talking again—because they are talking. You just have to learn how to listen.

This is an excerpt from my upcoming book on how to deliver awesome trainings. It comes from the chapter Interaction. This theory is also covered in my Train-the-Trainer programme: Inspire to Develop.

Virtual sessions: Breaks

A case of life or death by screen

Alright, let’s talk requirement #2 for engaging online sessions: Effective breaks. If I were to spend some time digging into research I would probably find some scientific evidence that supports what you and I have already experienced for ourselves: online sessions are more taxing than face to face sessions. Therefore, online engagement is determined just as much by how you take your breaks as by how you conduct the session. 

 
 

You want to take your breaks superserious, both for yourself and for participants. This means:

  • Take a break of at least 10 minutes every hour. No exceptions! 

  • Lunch needs to be at least 45 minutes, but preferably an hour. 

  • It is not enough to just announce a break and send participants off. You want to introduce your breaks with a certain gravitas.  An example of what you might say:

    • ‘Allright, it’s time for a crucial part in our programme: a break! Since we’re probably all experiencing that doing a virtual session is quite intense for both our eyes and our brains I invite you to get intentional about your break. Recharge effectively. My tip to you: step away from any and all screens. If you spend your break behind a screen I can promise you you’ll have a fried brain at the end of our session. What to do instead? Take a walk, go outside, have a coffee, put on some music and have yourself a little dance, anything that works for you. If it gets you away from a screen and into some movement: that’s what we’re looking for. See you in 10!” 

  • During the breaks, as a trainer, always turn off your camera and mute. This demonstrates that you yourself are practicing what you preach, having a proper break.

  • As participants are returning from their first break you might enquire about what they did during their break. Celebrate great break ideas. It serves two purposes: it gets participants in talking-mode again and building a culture of proper break-taking.

Building a learning culture: Discouraging Behaviors

I know I have to do something. I am two hours into the training and I see at least three participants lean back and zoom out. The cause of this is my inability to manage the participant to my left. I have rarely met a participant so invested in the training and eager to learn. In his eagerness however, he is taking up a lot of space. Too much space in this case. No question is left unanswered by him and he contributes a lot of examples of his own. The less vocal people in the group are unable to get a word in. Even though I’ve tried to engage them in the conversation, the balance is still off. 

Take a moment for yourself to think about how you would approach this situation. How can you get this participant to tone it down while not dampening their spirits? What words would you use? Would you say it in the group? Would you take them aside?

A positive approach to correcting behaviors

All right, have you figured out your response? That’s great. Give yourself a thumbs-up for doing this mental work-out. Were you able to strike that elegant balance between correcting behavior and keeping enthusiasm? This has been one of the skills I have needed to develop over the years. When I started out as a trainer I had no problem correcting undesirable behavior, but the approach I took had a stern-teacher-like quality to it (it still pops up for me from time to time, I have to admit). The result was that the behavior stopped, but the participant lost appetite for the session because they felt put down. After years of trial and error I’ve finally stumbled upon a great method to do this. Are you ready for it? 

Curious how this plays out in practice? This is how I used the method with that eager participant. I decided to approach him during the break. This is what I said:

  • ‘Since the beginning of the session I have already spotted two qualities that you bring to the table that I really appreciate: your zest for learning and your quick-wit.’ 

(Important note: I meant what I said. I really did appreciate this about him. I would not recommend making stuff up here that you don’t really mean. People can sense it if you’re disingenuous and then this method will backfire.)

  • ‘Because you are so fast in contributing though, I notice other participants are leaning back, because they are having difficulty getting a word in.’

  • ‘Can I invite you to play around with the concept of giving space and taking up space? You might do this by allowing some time to pass before you ask a question, or checking other’s non-verbals to see if they’re about to say something.’

The result of this intervention? We ended up having a conversation in which the participant opened up by saying that this was feedback that he had had before. He shared that there were more situations in his life where his enthusiasm caused him to take up a lot of (and sometimes too much) space. Because of the practical tips I had given him he was eager to try giving more space in practice. During the rest of the session I noticed him deliberately waiting before jumping in with a response and as a result the balance of participation in the session was restored. 

Why this works: the power of recognition

Time and time again I’ve noticed this way of correcting behavior works. My suspicion is that it is in the first step where the magic lies. By recognizing the quality in the behavior or the positive intention you convey a message of: I see you and I appreciate you. When someone makes you feel like that, any message that follows becomes much more digestible and motivation to do something different increases. When teaching this method to other trainers many find it difficult to come up with the quality or positive intention. Especially if you find a particular behavior annoying as a trainer, it can be difficult to find the positive. To give you an idea of the things you could say, here are a couple of example situations and possible approaches. 

Practical Examples: Applying the Method in Different Situations

Situation: As you are discussing theory one participant asks a lot of very detailed questions. This takes up too much time and you notice other participants getting bored. 

Approach: 

1. ‘I appreciate the thoroughness you bring to really understanding this theory’ 

2. ‘Being mindful of the time we have, my concern is that when we go into this level of detail we will not have enough time for this next exercise’.

3. ‘Are you okay with leaving it here for the moment to move into this exercise? I’d be happy to answer any questions that remain during the break’.

Situation: As the group is continuously late in coming back from the break. There is no ill will, but they are having such a good time together that they forget about the time. 

Approach:

1. ‘I love how you are getting on as a group, it really shows the bond you’ve created over the course of these training days’ 

2. ‘A byproduct of this is that the breaks take longer than we agreed upon, leaving me with a challenge to run the programme AND get you home on time’.

3. ‘Can I challenge you to definitely keep on having the fun you’re having whilst also returning from the break on the agreed upon time?’.

Situation: As someone is sharing something vulnerable they get emotional. Uncomfortable by the show of emotion some participants immediately move into rushed action by getting a glass of water, patting the back of the emotional participant and trying to console them. 

Approach:

  1. ‘I appreciate the compassion that you demonstrate.’

  2. ‘When someone gets emotional though, just being present and holding space for the emotion is usually the most supportive gesture. Directly moving into action can be counter to the natural processing of emotions.’

  3. ‘Can I invite you to experiment with just holding space and giving the other person some time to move through their emotion?’


This is an excerpt from my upcoming book on how to deliver awesome trainings. It comes from the chapter Stretch - the balance between safety and challenge. This theory is also covered in my Train-the-Trainer programme: Inspire to Develop.

Interaction: Dealing with right answers

Right answers from participants also deserve a conscious approach, if you want to ensure high levels of interaction. What you want to avoid is that when a participant gives a sliver of the right answer you immediately move in and take over. Let’s look at an example from a training on the Rose of Leary.

  • You: ‘So let me ask you, who can give me an example of when ABOVE - AGAINST behavior is appropriate or even necessary?’

  • Participant:Maybe when you have to communicate a boundary?’

  • You: ‘That’s exactly right! When you have to communicate a boundary, ABOVE - AGAINST behavior is what you need. At that particular moment, you are putting your needs/wants/desires above what the other person might want. That makes it AGAINST. You are taking initiative by speaking up and making a statement and that makes it ABOVE. Does that make sense?

What you communicate through this interaction is that you only need their input as assists to your own story. You are not truly interested in what they have to say. Participants will pick up on this immediately and as a result will not be as forthcoming with any new answers. Interaction levels will slowly wither. 

How to deal with right answers

How you deal with a right answer is influenced by the level of correctness and the level of completeness. Let’s take a look at a couple of examples to find out how you deal with them.

The answer is 100% correct & 100% complete

Strategy: Highlight & Reward. Endorse the answer and offer the participant a moment in the sun for their contribution. How you do this depends very much on your style as a trainer. I personally have some fun with this by saying things like:

  • ‘Ladies and gentleman, we have an angels-singing situation on our hands, what Peter said is exactly right!’

  • ‘That’s exactly right! I couldn’t have said it any better if I had read it to you from the textbook.’

  • ‘That’s a 10 out of 10 right there! Well done!’  

The answer is <100% correct & 100% complete

<100% correct implies that the answer is definitely in the direction you’re looking for, but it needs some fine-tuning to be exactly right.

Strategy: Reward the part that’s right and invite further additions either from the group or from the participant who gave the answer. Let’s take a look at this example from a training on Coaching:

  • You: ‘What did you see me do, after the coachee told me the story about his boss?’

  • Participant A: ‘You summarized it, by saying ‘I see that this is bothering you’.

  • You: ‘Well spotted! I indeed summarized it. Those were not the exact words I used though. Who remembers which turn of phrase I used?

  • Participant B: ‘You said: ‘It looks like this is bothering you’’

  • You: ‘Awesome! That’s right. The reason I’m making you aware of this distinction is that ‘It looks like’ keeps the focus on the coachee and ‘I see’ takes more of the focus towards yourself and what you think.

The answer is 100% correct & <100% complete

<100% complete can mean two things.

  1. Multiple answers exist for this particular question. 

Strategy: reward and invite further contributions, sometimes nudging the participants in a particular direction to come up with new answers. Let’s take a look at a situation from training on Focus:

  • You: So when we know that the most effective breaks for the brain involve not taking in any information and being in a state of open awareness, can you think of some examples of great breaks?

  • Participant A: ‘Loading the dishwasher.’

  • You: ‘For sure! What else?’

  • Participant B: ‘I always dance in the living room!’

  • You: ‘Cool, I think I’ll try that myself! That definitely is an effective break for the brain. To also have some examples of breaks that are easier to do when you’re at work, what can you think of?’

  • Participant C: ‘Take a walk’

  • You: ‘Yup! Easy movement is one of the most effective breaks for the brain. Keep going!

  • Participant D: ‘Stare out of the window’

  • You: ‘Indeed, it might seem odd, but that’s actually a great break! I hope these examples gives you some inspiration for your breaks to come.’

    2. The answer lacks depth and needs further elaboration to be meaningful.

Strategy: Invite the participant to elaborate further. Let’s take a look at the example from a training on Delivering Bad News.

  • You: ‘What would happen if you ignore that someone is angry and try to have a rational conversation?’

  • Participant: ‘It wouldn’t work.’

  • You: [with friendly inquisitive look on your face] ‘Say more’

  • Participant: ‘Well, they wouldn’t exactly be open for it, right?’

  • You: ‘Can you elaborate?’

  • Participant: ‘Well, when I think of myself when I am angry, anything you say to me usually only puts fuel to the fire. I get even more riled up. I’m just not in the right headspace to hear what it is you have to say. 

  • You: ‘Yes, that is exactly what tends to happen. ‘

This is an excerpt from my upcoming book on how to deliver awesome trainings. It comes from the chapter Interaction. This theory is also covered in my Train-the-Trainer programme: Inspire to Develop.

Interaction: Dealing with wrong answers

When you ask a question to the group, it can be challenging when a participant gives  an answer that is blatantly wrong. In order to keep interaction high two things hang in the balance here: you want to reward the person for having a go at the question and at the same time you want to make sure everyone understands what the right answer is. Dealing with wrong answers is a critical trainer skill. If you’re too harsh, the group will think twice before they answer going forward for fear of looking stupid. If you’re too quick to correct them, the group will become more reticent to answer because they already expect you to give them the answer. 

So how do you tread that balance? Here are some techniques that help you when someone gives you a wrong answer:

Option 1

  • Figure out where they made a wrong turn, give them a tip and shape their way to the right answer

    • ‘So you think X? Tell us why. 

    • [answer] 

    • ‘I see. And if you consider this [X], does your answer remain the same?’.

Option 2

  • Use the group: 

    • ‘Hmm, interesting. Does everyone agree, or does someone see it differently?

    • [some non-verbal no’s] 

    • No? Then what do you think? 

    • [Right answer]

    • ‘Yes, that is indeed also what the theory suggests/ Yes, that has also been my experience/ Yes, that’s right.

Option 3

  • Sometimes the answer is not necessarily wrong, but just not the one you are looking for. Reward the answer and invite them to come up with another answer 

    • ‘Yes, it is always an option to stop a conversation when emotions get heated. But what if you wanted to try to turn the conversation around, what could you do then?’

This is an excerpt from my upcoming book on how to deliver awesome trainings. It comes from the chapter Interaction. This theory is also covered in my Train-the-Trainer programme: Inspire to Develop.

Interaction: Dealing with questions

‘Always do something with a question, other than answering it.’ 

I looked at the trainer, glassy-eyed… I thought I had nailed it. Answered every question with precision. So why was  I getting this feedback? It was early days in my career, and I had just delivered part of a training session in a Train the Trainer course. The theory I had explained was quite difficult and all of the questions from the group I had answered, and answered well. I felt pretty sure every participant understood what I had tried to convey, so I didn’t see the problem. 

Not one to give up easily, I challenged: ‘but everyone understands it right?’ I even looked at the group to get some back up and to my delight got some nodding. I proudly looked back to the trainer, who smiled at me. ‘Yes, you did a pretty good job in explaining the theory. There are however other factors that are important if you want to deliver a stellar training, apart from getting people to understand. Would you be interested to find out how you did in these?’ I nodded yes. 

The trainer then asked the group: ‘By a show of fingers, rate how engaged you felt during this segment, 1 being not at all, 10 being totally.’ I received a 3, a couple of 4’s, a 5 and a 7. The trainer continued: ‘And now rate how interested you were in what Rosanne was conveying’. Now my numbers ranged from 2 to 6. Ooof, for someone that always aims for high marks, these ratings were like a punch to the gut. I got the point. I had focused so intently on nailing the theory that I had completely lost track of engagement. Yet, as a trainer, that is crucial.

Ever since that moment, I’ve  been honing the skill of delivering interactive, engaging sessions. At this point in time high levels of interaction are even one of my USP’s as a trainer. This should give you hope, since it’s clearly a trainable skill. Let me share what I’ve learned with you.

Mindset

Oftentimes it is our beliefs that hold us back from attaining a certain goal. Many trainers (myself included) hold the following belief when they start out:  

If someone asks a question, I need to answer it.

Are you too getting a pang of recognition here? This is exactly the kind of belief that will hinder you to create an engaging learning session. By giving the answers, you are doing the hard work and are not inviting the participants to think for themselves and learn something. You are only displaying your knowledge instead of helping them build some. This creates passive groups with little interaction. So our first order of business is changing our belief to:.

If someone asks a question, I use it to activate the group to learn.

Totally different ballgame, right? If you are bought into this belief, yet unclear on how you do this, read on.

How you deal with a question is influenced  by the energy that is driving the question. Let’s take a look at a couple of examples, and how you deal with them. 

Someone doesn’t understand it. 

‘So, let’s say someone keeps interrupting me. If I then give feedback and I say ‘I felt you were being rude’, is that an observation or an interpretation?’

 
 

How you could deal with it:

  • Use the group

    • ‘Who has an answer to this question?’

An important note—sometimes, you may not get the answer you’re looking for right away. If that’s the case, keep prompting with questions like ‘Does everyone feel the same?’  or ‘Does anyone have a different view?’. When the right answer is mentioned, but there are also different viewpoints that came from the group, your role as a trainer is to highlight the right answer. You can do this by saying: ‘Exactly!’ or ‘That is indeed also what the theory suggests’ or ‘and this is also how I look at it/my experience.’ In this way, you strengthen your role as an expert and you set the participants at ease because now it’s clear which answer is the ‘correct’ one.

  • Uncover why they don’t understand it, and coach them to the right answer. Think of this as a mini-coaching moment. Instead of spoon-feeding the answer, you’re nudging them to see it themselves.

    • ‘Do you remember the main difference between an observation and an interpretation? 

    • [Answer: ‘Yes, an observation is a fact, and an interpretation is the meaning you assign to that fact’

    • Exactly! And is it a fact that interrupting people is rude? In other words, would everyone see it the exact same way?’

    • [Answer: ‘Well I think most people would, but maybe not all…’]

    • ‘So does that make that statement an interpretation or an interpretation?

    • [Answer: ‘An interpretation!’]

    • ‘Right!’

Someone asks a question to verify an answer they already have in their head. 

‘So, is it a good idea then to prepare your feedback in advance?’

 
 

How you could deal with it:

  • Turn it around

    • ‘What do you think?’

    • ‘From the way you ask the question, it sounds like you already have an idea around this, am I right?

Someone asks a question because they are skeptical or not convinced of what you’re saying.

‘So when someone gets emotional I should allow space for the emotion?’

 
 

How you could deal with it:

  • Address the thing that is not being said and invite them to elaborate

    • ‘It sounds like you have some doubt around this, how so?’

  • Reward them for speaking up and ask them a question to invite them to think for themselves 

    • ‘Good question! What might be the use of doing that, do you think?’

I’m excited for you to start test-driving these approaches to handling questions! Plus, there’s a great bonus here: energy preservation. You’re now inviting participants to do the heavy lifting, which leaves you feeling way more energized—both during and after the session. You’re welcome!

This is an excerpt from my upcoming book on how to deliver awesome trainings. It comes from the chapter Interaction. This theory is also covered in my Train-the-Trainer programme: Inspire to Develop.

Virtual sessions: Presence

I’ve written the following from the perspective of a trainer, yet the same principle applies to all types of virtual sessions. Use it to your advantage!

True or false: It’s possible to deliver an engaging online training session from 09:00 to 16:00, leaving participants wanting more for three consecutive days.

Well? If you’re like most people you would say: ‘False!’, based on never having seen it done. I’m here to tell you that it can be done. And it can be done by YOU. How do I know this? Because I’ve done it.

Last year I facilitated an online Train the Trainer course for a lovely group of trainers dialing in from Nigeria and Uganda. I dialed in from the Netherlands and the training actor dialed in from India. That’s the modern world for you right there! This group stayed engaged, present, and eager for more each day. How? Let me tell you.

Engaging online sessions require four things. Without these prerequisites online engagement does not happen. Trust me on this one. From participants it requires presence, in the broadest sense of the word. From you as a trainer it requires effective breaks, plenty of interaction and major restraint when it comes to slides.

This blogpost will focus on the first one: Presence.

 

This is the amazing group of trainers from Nigeria and Uganda at the end of a three day virtual Train the Trainer course. Together, we proved that full day virtual courses that are fun, engaging and valuable are in fact possible!

 

Presence: you’re either fully here or not at all

Without presence of the participants - in the broadest sense of the word - a virtual session is doomed to fail. A participant is present when they are there, on time, visible, audible and paying attention. In order to ensure this is the case I always start the session with some virtual hygiene. I ask them to do three things:

During the session:

  • You have your mute button OFF

  • You have your camera ON

  • Your focus is on the session 

As you already know from me, I rarely ask participants to do something without telling them WHY I am making that request. I invite you to create your own narrative around this, but as an inspiration, this is what I tend to say. 

As you all know from the many virtual meetings you have had in your life, many of them can be tedious, draining and boring. That is not what I intend for this session. I’m fairly certain we can create a session that is useful, engaging and fun. For this, I need your help. I will ask you to do three things.

First, contrary to what you’re used to in virtual meetings, I ask you to UNMUTE. The mute button serves as an invisible barrier to communication. I promise you that our levels of interaction will go way up when everyone complies.  Obviously, if you have someone drilling a hole in the wall next to you, feel free to mute for a moment. Other than that: Mute off. 

[What I’m not telling them, but will tell you: Unmuting also prevents participants from speaking to others, which keeps the focus on your session.]

Second, I invite you to have your camera ON throughout. A black square where your face should be is like a black hole of energy. That’s not what we want. Obviously if you’re uncomfortable to show your surroundings feel free to blur or choose a nice background for yourself. 

[A note to you: Someone having their camera off is the virtual equivalent of someone sitting with their back to the group. You wouldn’t accept that in your F2F sessions, so don’t accept it in a virtual one. I also ask participants with multiple screens to set up in such a way that they are facing the camera. Without a clear visual of participants' faces you are lacking your most important tool for creating interaction: participants’ facial expressions. ] 

Finally, I invite you to be fully present. Enjoy the luxury of doing just one thing at a time. Close your other windows. Turn off your notifications. This is your time for self-improvement, be here for it. Obviously, sometimes the nature of your job does not allow you to switch off like this. There might be something that requires your attention. I get that. If this is the case for you, feel free to give me a heads-up, leave our training session for a moment to attend to your business and rejoin our session when you’re finished.    

[Note to you: By asking them to leave the session when they need to do something else, rather than just muting/turning the camera off, you set a higher standard for distractions. In my experience you are eliminating over 50% of possible distractions.]

In order for this approach to work, it is important to show that you are serious about it. Apart from mentioning it in the beginning, you want to gently remind and/or confront anyone who doesn’t comply. Don’t let it slide because if you don’t address it, more will follow.  Addressing it can range from asking everyone to unmute again as they come back from a break-out room to inquiring what’s going on with someone who is clearly doing something else. Enforcing your virtual hygiene is an advanced art: you want to show that these are non-negotiables for you, whilst being very pleasant about it. It takes some practice, but you’ll get there. 

In very rare instances you will encounter a group that does not comply, despite your best efforts. How do you deal with that? Well, I have to admit I find that situation particularly tricky. The solution I found is not particularly elegant, but it does allow me to keep my integrity as a trainer. This is what I do. 

  1. I accept that this particular session will not meet my standard for quality and it is not on me. 

  2. After the session I feed back to the client that I cannot deliver quality sessions this way and ask them to take this up with the participants.

  3. If nothing changes: I decline further sessions. I don’t want to tarnish the reputation of virtual sessions even further by contributing to lame, dull and uninspiring sessions.

This is an excerpt from my upcoming book on how to deliver awesome trainings. It comes from the chapter Introducing, Guiding and Debriefing Exercises. This theory is also covered in my Train-the-Trainer programme: Inspire to Develop.